Choosing the Right Influences in Your Life

Proverbs 12:26- The righteous choose their friends carefully, but the way of the wicked leads them astray


It was over a year ago when my husband and I had a big argument.  I went into the room and prayed, just crying from frustration, and then grabbed my phone to call my best friend Rayna.  It was about ten o’clock at night and she answered half asleep.  She let me vent to her and afterwards prayed with me, asking God to guide my marriage.

Every time I’ve had an issue with my husband, I pray, and then asked my best friends for advice.  


I ask my best friends for advice because I trust their advice is positive and godly.


I believe we need companionship from women to help us get through the tough times we will face in life.  A woman who will listen to us, cry with us, and tell us it’ll be okay.  Sometimes we can make a poor decision when choosing a friend and don’t realize it until it is too late.  I have been there myself and have been hurt by friends, causing years of recovery but God allowed that so I would have the greatest friendships ever as an adult.  


Talking to my best friends about everything, has helped transition into military life and made it so much easier to know they will always be there no matter where I go.  It isn't the case for everyone though.  Some feel they don’t have friends anymore since becoming a military wife because they have left those friends behind at home.  Others might feel they can’t talk to their friends that are not in the military because “they just don’t understand”.  I get it trust me, I’m not exempting myself from this statement.   The reality is we need to make sure our friendships, whether they are military or not, are actually helping us grow as a person and in our relationships.


I have learned that choosing the right influences in your life can go a long way.  Before I even had the friendships I do now, I asked myself internally and prayed these questions because I knew how important it is to have lifelong friendships:

If she is married or in a relationship, do they have a good relationship? (This helps me see if she will have a good relationship with me)
Does she gossip? (This is very important because “A gossip betrays confidence; so avoid anyone who talks too much- Proverbs 20:19).
When I am at fault for anything, does she call me out in a loving way? (Better is open rebuke then hidden love- Proverbs 27:5)
Does she help me grow in my marriage?


These questions I can honestly answer with a hard YES!!! My best friends all encourage me to grow spiritually, physically with eating right and working out, and they challenge me daily.  What are some ways maybe you can become a better friend to your best friend?  Remember relationships are a two way street.



Thank you for amazing friendships that glorify you.  I pray for those who have been hurt by friends and are guarded in forming new friendships.  Help them jump that hurdle Lord.  In Jesus name Amen!!!


For His glory,



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